So.
Have you ever been able to maintain a healthy friendship with someone you were previously dating? Can you go back to being "just friends" with an ex? There's no debating the fact that I have never personally accomplished this, even though I've tried more than just one time. But what I want to know is not whether I can do it, but if anyone can. Is it even possible for exes to be friends?
I doubt it. Most things in life that I know anything about involve lines. You go so far and draw a line. Maybe the goal is to cross the line, break your record, take another step. But there are other lines that we cross that we'd prefer to re-cross and get back to the other side. But the lines in life- or all the ones I've ever been a part of- can not be uncrossed. And unfortunately this seems to be the case with the Friendship Line. Don't you agree?
Once you cross over from being buddies only to something more, I don't think there's a way to have any other kind of relationship. You're stuck with a romantic relationship, or no relationship at all. And so far, the only other possibility I see is just a whole lot of awkwardness and I can't stand that. Awkward is the worst!
I once dated my best friend. And now that we aren't together, I can't tell him all that stuff that you only tell your best friend. I have a new best friend. And my relationship with her is fantastic. She may even be a BETTER best friend... But she isn't the same. She can't replace the one I lost and I lost it for good because of stupid lines. I wish you could choose which writing utensil you want to use to draw your lines. Like:: "This one I'm drawing in thick black sharpie marker, but this one over here let's put in pencil." You know what I mean?
But if everyone was able to undo every mistake they ever made then none of us would ever learn anything. And we'd all probably end up spending the rest of our lives in relationships with the wrong people. Those people we were meant to breakup with.
Who wrote the rules for relationships? I'd really like to know so that I could smack them hard across the face.
